Facebook Friend Request Etiquette

[Granny]

I just received a friend request from someone that I have no idea who they are. Of course, they wouldn't have a picture or their maiden name in their facebook name. I was able to look in their profile and see that they attended the same high school though several years ahead of me. Well, I'm one of six kids and over half of us attended the same high school and have names that start with "J". Don't know what my mother was thinking. And if that isn't bad enough there was another Jane a couple of years ahead of me.

I sent them a short message and asked if they had me confused with my sister, Judy, or the other Jane and apologized if I was having a senior moment and not remembering them. This is not the first time I've received a request like this. One was actually looking for my sister, Jill. One I still don't remember, but all my friends seem to know her.

I've only been on facebook a couple of months. Please give us your thoughts on the proper etiquette on sending and receiving Friend requests.

Granny's Orchard
Jane P Richardson aka Granny:baffled:

[Nicole]

I just received a friend request from someone that I have no idea who they are. Of course, they wouldn't have a picture or their maiden name in their facebook name. I was able to look in their profile and see that they attended the same high school though several years ahead of me. Well, I'm one of six kids and over half of us attended the same high school and have names that start with "J". Don't know what my mother was thinking. And if that isn't bad enough there was another Jane a couple of years ahead of me.

I sent them a short message and asked if they had me confused with my sister, Judy, or the other Jane and apologized if I was having a senior moment and not remembering them. This is not the first time I've received a request like this. One was actually looking for my sister, Jill. One I still don't remember, but all my friends seem to know her.

I've only been on facebook a couple of months. Please give us your thoughts on the proper etiquette on sending and receiving Friend requests.

Granny's Orchard
Jane P Richardson aka Granny:baffled:

Hi Granny -
I think you did the right thing! Asking them how they know you if you don't recognize them is ok! Or you could accept them- check out their page - and if it's a mistake - just delete them from your friends list! Good Luck! :smile:

[Granny]

Hi Granny -
I think you did the right thing! Asking them how they know you if you don't recognize them is ok! Or you could accept them- check out their page - and if it's a mistake - just delete them from your friends list! Good Luck! :smile:


Thanks Nicole, On this one I sent the message and asked questions. If she is looking for my sister, I can at least point her in the right direction. One request, another friend and I decided we just flat couldn't remember and accepted since other friends knew her. The third actually sent a message asking me if she had gotten the correct person, which I thought was a good approach.

Granny's Orchard
Jane P Richardson aka Granny

[sunshine]

Please give us your thoughts on the proper etiquette on sending and receiving Friend requests.

Granny's Orchard
Jane P Richardson aka Granny:baffled:

There really is no proper etiquette to accepting or declining requests like this. If they don't come back to you with information that is relevant to you - just click ignore. You have to do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable and not worry about possibly hurting someone else's feelings.

As an aside, One thing I have found on myFarm, now that the new Forum is set up, I no longer receive random and endless Facebook friendship requests from people who want to increase their farm friends. This has been a delightful added bonus to switching to the new forum.

With regards receiving random requests - you are doing the correct thing as you don't want to just add anyone. You might find yourself bombarded by tons of app requests which is a nightmare. You are also opening yourself up to having them being able to access a lot of personal information that is normally only viewed by family members and close friends. I understand your reticence in clicking Ignore because you never know if it just might be someone you know! My advice is, if you don't get a satisfactory reply (or any reply at all) just click Ignore.

Live, Love, Farm???

[Granny]

There really is no proper etiquette to accepting or declining requests like this. If they don't come back to you with information that is relevant to you - just click ignore. You have to do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable and not worry about possibly hurting someone else's feelings.

As an aside, One thing I have found on myFarm, now that the new Forum is set up, I no longer receive random and endless Facebook friendship requests from people who want to increase their farm friends. This has been a delightful added bonus to switching to the new forum.

With regards receiving random requests - you are doing the correct thing as you don't want to just add anyone. You might find yourself bombarded by tons of app requests which is a nightmare. You are also opening yourself up to having them being able to access a lot of personal information that is normally only viewed by family members and close friends. I understand your reticence in clicking Ignore because you never know if it just might be someone you know! My advice is, if you don't get a satisfactory reply (or any reply at all) just click Ignore.

Live, Love, Farm???



Thanks for the response. I'll just have to wait and see if she responds to my message.

[Granny]

Well, she replied to my message. Whew, I'm not losing it, she did have the wrong Jane, but apparently I went to school with her younger brother. And guess what I can't remember him either! LOL

[Joy]

But what about Farm Friends etiquette? I accepted as a Farm Friend a woman who said she would reciprocate gifts 1 for 1, but she did so only for a short time. I've reduced the number of gifts (zero today) and wrote on her farm wall "Reciprocity is good." I thougt perhaps she was out of town, but looked at her farm and found she had just planted within the last hour. Grrrr!

[sunshine]

But what about Farm Friends etiquette? I accepted as a Farm Friend a woman who said she would reciprocate gifts 1 for 1, but she did so only for a short time. I've reduced the number of gifts (zero today) and wrote on her farm wall "Reciprocity is good." I thougt perhaps she was out of town, but looked at her farm and found she had just planted within the last hour. Grrrr!

I have actually landed up removing a few people like that from my Facebook so that I can send more gifts to my real farm friends. What really amused me though was that those people had spent more than enough time sending me hordes of app requests for other things that I really didn't want. Live, Love, Farm???

[kiah]

that is a huge prob with farm friends!! or people who are new start add you as a friend and then don't continue to play..... i have been super lucky all my farmfriends from the fourms are good at sending me things and me sending them back if i don't get a gift in a week i tend to remove a new person from my list. (i only have 13 or so ppl on the list and i know at least half of them in real life )
you gotta do what you gotta do :)

[charli]

I have very few farm friends, but they've been soooo good to me I haven't pursued anymore, It would feel unfair to start sending less.

Although I'd love to have more beautiful farms on my friend wall. How do you say "I wanna be your friend but I don't want anything from you except the ability to keep up with what creative things you are doing on your farm"?

Oh well, luckily in this new forum so many people post their links so its almost the same.:wink:

[Super Moo]

But what about Farm Friends etiquette? I accepted as a Farm Friend a woman who said she would reciprocate gifts 1 for 1, but she did so only for a short time. I've reduced the number of gifts (zero today) and wrote on her farm wall "Reciprocity is good." I thougt perhaps she was out of town, but looked at her farm and found she had just planted within the last hour. Grrrr!
I have the same problem I have about 50 or so farm friends and they all said they were going to send gifts but nothing doing I am usually pretty good in sending gifts everyday I even have a system for different days of the week but I usually get about 6 or so gifts a day, so lately what i have been doing is putting down who is sending me gifts and i only send to them about three each or so if the others what to get any they will have to send some:smile:

[Stewarts#1girl]

But what about Farm Friends etiquette? I accepted as a Farm Friend a woman who said she would reciprocate gifts 1 for 1, but she did so only for a short time. I've reduced the number of gifts (zero today) and wrote on her farm wall "Reciprocity is good." I thougt perhaps she was out of town, but looked at her farm and found she had just planted within the last hour. Grrrr!

I have had that same problem. I don't have many 'friends' that play this game so I have to rely on the friends request here. I have noticed that I was sending out gifts to people who never send me gifts in return. I haven't deleted them yet, but will send them a gift every so often to remind them of me. But if she is someone you don't even know then I would just delete her.

[farmergirl]

I have the same problem I have about 50 or so farm friends and they all said they were going to send gifts but nothing doing I am usually pretty good in sending gifts everyday I even have a system for different days of the week but I usually get about 6 or so gifts a day, so lately what i have been doing is putting down who is sending me gifts and i only send to them about three each or so if the others what to get any they will have to send some:smile:
just delete them. theyll never even notice.

[farmergirl]

and the first time someone bugs me about sending them a gift....zip. they are gone.

[kiminbend]

I now have a list of my friends...each day I mark how many gifts I have received...those friends and those friends only will receive gifts the following day (usually equal or close to equal). I give everyone a month...no gift...no friend...that includes the friends I actually do know!

[chellybean]

I had to purge a few of my "farm friends" that just stopped sending. I am a faithful sender and I expect the same. I always tell my new "farm friends" I will send at least 1 animal and 1 plant daily, or at least 6 out of 7 days. I will not add more than 10 "farm friends" so that I can ensure that everyone gets their gifts each day. I don't feel some people think before adding a ton of farm friends... then they don't have enough gifts to send out to everyone.


http://apps.facebook.com/farmgame/visit.pS?sid=1408784038

[Granny]

All of my farm friends are family or close friends I have started on myfarm. I have them all set up in a "Farm" group under my Friends to make it easy to give gifts. We once had a thread that discussed how to set the privacy settings in facebook if we wanted to add myfarm friends, but would prefer they not have access to our whole facebook profile. I looked for the thread but couldn't find it. Would someone mind going over that process again? I'm sure we have had new members that are hesitant to add people they meet in the forum and would like this info, too.

[farmergirl]

We once had a thread that discussed how to set the privacy settings in facebook if we wanted to add myfarm friends, but would prefer they not have access to our whole facebook profile. I looked for the thread but couldn't find it. Would someone mind going over that process again?

at the top of your FB page select settings, privacy settings. select profile. under each topic there is a setting to customize. you may select certain people and allow them to view only certain parts of your profile. there is also an options so that you may see your profile as that selected person would see it.

[Stewarts#1girl]

I have just recently deleted a few of my farm friends that I haven't seen a gift from in a while. Although I don't keep close track of who is sending me gifts or how many, as it's really not that big of a deal to me. I do know my constant senders and they are always the ones who receive gifts from me because while I am accepting the gifts, I get used to seeing their names and pics. I feel that if it is too stressful to count and keep track, then cut your options of friends to send to down to the most repetitive ones. I would hate to delete someone and then find out they have been out of town, sick, or had a major life issue that has caused them to take a break from the game.

[Sarah]

I have a farm gift giving system too..

I have 2 pages open.. one that shows who has given me gifts and the other on 'send gifts'..
I scroll through and send a gift to everyone who has already sent me one.. If someone has sent me 2 or more I try to return another to them and it works well now that I have delete over 200 'friends' and can gift 40 each day.
Sometimes I even have a few spare and then I confuse Gloworm by giving her 2 or 3.. LOL

[Granny]

at the top of your FB page select settings, privacy settings. select profile. under each topic there is a setting to customize. you may select certain people and allow them to view only certain parts of your profile. there is also an options so that you may see your profile as that selected person would see it.

Cheryl,
Thanks so much for the instructions. Sounds easy enough. I want to keep my farm friend group small so I can send them multiple items a day. They all have smaller farms and need the help building their farms up, but I do have a few a want to add.

[fangfluffy]

I have a list of 20 or so, and i just send them 1 or 2 each, each day. I don't worry too much about the equal reciprocity, but I do have about 4 friends who send me 3-4 gifts a day. I'm only returning 2 to them, but I do appreciate the extras.


As for the facebook friends thing... I don't like to accept requests from people when I have no clue who they are. I wish I understood the privacy settings better. Some things, like the photos of my family, i'd like to limit to an inner circle, but i haven't really looked into how to do that... I should go do that though :)

[Sarah]

I wish I understood the privacy settings better. Some things, like the photos of my family, i'd like to limit to an inner circle, but i haven't really looked into how to do that... I should go do that though :)

FF When you add photos you can select who can view them... 'Everyone', 'Network & Friends', 'friends only' etc
Try poking around for it when you next add a pic and you should be able to go in and edit the settings on photos already added

[farmergirl]

I wish I understood the privacy settings better. Some things, like the photos of my family, i'd like to limit to an inner circle

use instuctions in post #18. on the privacy setting page there is a link to use to edit photo privacy option. you can set the settings for all your photos in general, or privacy settings for specific people. :smile1:

[Granny]

As for the facebook friends thing... I don't like to accept requests from people when I have no clue who they are. I wish I understood the privacy settings better. Some things, like the photos of my family, i'd like to limit to an inner circle, but i haven't really looked into how to do that... I should go do that though :)


I totally agree. I'm not trying to be anti-social. I enjoy visiting with everyone on the forum. I have my settings so the only thing non-friends can see is my friends list and then I have it set at friends of friends. I know that is how I have found a number of my relatives and old friends on facebook so I don't want to restrict it any further.

This goes back to the id protection thread.

[Jackyd]

at the top of your FB page select settings, privacy settings. select profile. under each topic there is a setting to customize. you may select certain people and allow them to view only certain parts of your profile. there is also an options so that you may see your profile as that selected person would see it.

I changed my facebook language to Pirate Language :)
any chance of these destructions in pirate code lol
Its extremely hard to understand but am determined to persevere

:laugh:

[Gemsie]

I would really like to make more farming friends, but am not sure how to go about it.
I know what you mean about friends who dont send things back, I have only 5-6 people who are daily gift givers. Anyone know how I can make farming friends?
Gemsie

[srs42]

All of my farm friends are family or close friends I have started on myfarm.

Most of my farm friends are family members. I do have an alter ego, however. I've set my cat up with his own email address and signed him up for Facebook. That way I can log in as him and give myself stuff when I need it. How's that for being sneaky. :dirol:

Sam
P.S. Henry's farm is at http://apps.facebook.com/farmgame/visit.pS?sid=1633563088. Be sure to zoom-out to see the whole design. :laugh1:

[farmergirl]

I would really like to make more farming friends, but am not sure how to go about it.

post in the farm request thread (http://myfarmcommunity.com/showthread.php?t=36)

[MissTana]

I don't mind friending anyone, I keep a separate farm friends list however, and if people stop sending gifts back, or are on my farm but don't actually play it, I just take them off the smaller list.

I only have about 12 friends on my gifting list so I send each of em a gift til I run into the "you can only send x more" and I send the extras to the people who send me the most back, or who asked for something special (I have a friend who loves her orange grove, and I usually send coconuts because they make the most profit for people.)

Also I will send the extras to people just starting out their farms to help them build up.

With the new increase in gifting gone to 60 from 40, I may entertain getting a couple more friends since I can still send bunches of gifts to the ones I have.

[Penny]

at the top of your FB page select settings, privacy settings. select profile. under each topic there is a setting to customize.....
I am so glad I found this thread, I don't know how I missed it before, though. I did not know you could customize by person. That is great to know, I have been apprehensive about adding farm friends I don't know. I guess I've been lucky.... have been able to add some great friends. Although a few have recently stopped farming altogether. I have been wondering if I should delete them. Thanks to all of you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. It's been very helpful to me for sure!

[Joy]

With the new increase in gifting gone to 60 from 40, I may entertain getting a couple more friends since I can still send bunches of gifts to the ones I have.
Have we gotten any official word that the gifting increase is permanent? I'm convinced it is a celebratory thing for the King's birthday or something equally momentous.

[GloWorm]

Sometimes I even have a few spare and then I confuse Gloworm by giving her 2 or 3.. LOL

And your generosity has not gone unnoticed, wonderful Sarah. Thank you!

Though I must say that I'm really careless about keeping track of who sends and who doesn't and how many and what. I actually became more aware when the Christmas trees came into play, since I found them so delightful ... and lucrative.

I still have mainly the same Farm Friends I've had since the beginning. And there are very few duds. But there ARE a few and I think I need to do some house keeping. I've always kept my list very tight, but with the expanded gifting capabilities it just may be time to make some new friends. We'll see. I'l lgive it some consideration.

[GloWorm]

I do have an alter ego, however. I've set my cat up with his own email address and signed him up for Facebook. That way I can log in as him and give myself stuff when I need it. How's that for being sneaky

Yup, it's sneaky. And I'm sure you're not the first nor the last do do this. However, it is strictly against Facebook regulations and highly frowned upon. And ultimately, it's not particularly sportsmanlike.

I will also council that, despite the friendly nature of some of these forums, they are still a highly visible and public arena. If you really are doing something sneaky, it might not be the best idea to announce it here for all to see.

I trust you will reconsider your actions and rectify the alias account situation, particularly as it applies to myFarm.

Thank you.

[Teresa]

I make a list everyday of who sends me gifts, and I send the same amount and type back. If they stop sending me gifts, the I stop sending them gifts. There are a few that I send stuff to everyday anyway because I know they'll make it up LOL. But lately I seem to be getting a lot of random people (people I have added for other games) sending me gifts.

[Wet Wellie]

I have a list of 20 or so, and i just send them 1 or 2 each, each day. I don't worry too much about the equal reciprocity, but I do have about 4 friends who send me 3-4 gifts a day. I'm only returning 2 to them, but I do appreciate the extras.


I also have a "farm friends" list and until the gift limit was recently increased, I couldn't send to everyone everyday.
I don't really keep track of who sends what, but I have a quick look through the most recently rec'd gifts in the display at the bottom of my farm page.
I then try to make sure I send at least something to each of them, (regular gifters tend to get more than one gift) whatever is left, gets shared amongst the remainder..
But if I dont get anything back from someone for a while, they get removed from my "farm friends" list - I dont delete them as friends for about another month - just incase they were on holiday, computer bust, RL problem or whatever.. That way if you get something from them after a while, its easy to add them back onto the "farm friends" list and reciprocate accordingly..

[Rain]

Ought oh.... I'm a new farmer, and new to this forum. I was delighted to find the thread where friends can contact each other to share 'gifts'. :)

BUT... I couldn't figure out how to send them a gift. I looked through the profiles until I found someone who looked nice and normal. I sent that person a invite to be a friend so we could share gifts. I hope he doesn't get mad?! I don't even remember his name... but I didn't know how else to do it.

[JayG]

Yup, it's sneaky. And I'm sure you're not the first nor the last do do this. However, it is strictly against Facebook regulations and highly frowned upon. And ultimately, it's not particularly sportsmanlike.

I will also council that, despite the friendly nature of some of these forums, they are still a highly visible and public arena. If you really are doing something sneaky, it might not be the best idea to announce it here for all to see.

I trust you will reconsider your actions and rectify the alias account situation, particularly as it applies to myFarm.

Thank you.

Gloria, with respect to the Facebook regulations I wholeheartedly agree, but the sportsmanlike issue seems to be a bit different, in that I don't see how it's all that different from any two person group that pairs up and decides to send all their gifts daily to each other. So I'm curious in your opinion is that example sportsmanlike?

[Granny]

Jay, I wondered about that, too. My husband started a farm and lost interest so I have taken his over rather than start another farm on another server. At first we sent all our gifts to each other, but as our friends and family members started farms we now divide our gifts among them.

[farmergirl]

I'm a new farmer, and new to this forum. I was delighted to find the thread where friends can contact each other to share 'gifts'.
BUT... I couldn't figure out how to send them a gift. I looked through the profiles until I found someone who looked nice and normal. I sent that person a invite to be a friend so we could share gifts. I didn't know how else to do it.

http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/forum/t1230.gif to find people that are interested in receiving friend request look in the Official Farm Friends Request Thread. (http://myfarmcommunity.com/showthread.php?t=36) there you will find people looking to add new friends. may i suggest you also add your name there as well so people looking to do the same are able to find you.

[Wet Wellie]

BUT... I couldn't figure out how to send them a gift. ... but I didn't know how else to do it.

Hi
I think the point you are after is that until you are "Facebook Friends" you cant send gifts, you need to make contact 1st in this forum (the new friends thread) then exchange contact details so that you can send one another "friend requests", once accepted you can then exchange gifts from your "myfarm" "Send Gifts" page.

I would suggest that you have a look at the thread "Jays computer hygene tips" and check your security settings in facebook (FB).. Most folks (self included) restrict what info can be accessed by farm friends and make a seperate "friends list" in FB, you can then use this list to add any new farming friends. So you only send gifts to people you know use MyFarm..

All this info can be found in the "Game Guide" together with more detailed instructions if reqd..

Hope this helps.. Keep yer Wellies Wet & Enjoy your farm...

[farmergirl]

Hi
I think the point you are after is that until you are "Facebook Friends" you cant send gifts, you need to make contact 1st in this forum (the new friends thread) then exchange contact details so that you can send one another "friend requests", once accepted you can then exchange gifts from your "myfarm" "Send Gifts" page.

under the persons forum name, click the little icon that sorta looks like a book with 'FB' on it...next to the tree. it will take you to that persons FB page to send a friend request. (not everyone has done this yet. if you havent, you should so the mods have it to use if they ever need to look at your farm for problems and debugging.)

[Granny]

at the top of your FB page select settings, privacy settings. select profile. under each topic there is a setting to customize. you may select certain people and allow them to view only certain parts of your profile. there is also an options so that you may see your profile as that selected person would see it.

Cheryl, I was able to change all my facebook settings as you suggested for my new game friend group. I, also, was able to change the privacy settings on my photo albums, too. Thanks again for the good advice.:thank_you2:

[farmergirl]

Thanks again for the good advice.

anytime! really. i am always glad to help. http://yoursmiles.org/msmile/pozitive/m1239.gif

[Wet Wellie]

under the persons forum name, click the little icon that sorta looks like a book with 'FB' on it...next to the tree. it will take you to that persons FB page to send a friend request. (not everyone has done this yet. if you havent, you should so the mods have it to use if they ever need to look at your farm for problems and debugging.)

Well Well Well, That one is news to me !!, I wondered what they were for !

I have to admit I saw a thread about the little icons, but I havent got around to reading it yet !! - Best I do some reading .... Oops ! :secret:

Thanks for the wellies, your gnomes can keep my other (now tatty) ones, if they are playing with them they might do less damage elsewhere on your farm !! :unsure:

[Rain]

Hi
I think the point you are after is that until you are "Facebook Friends" you cant send gifts, you need to make contact 1st in this forum (the new friends thread) then exchange contact details so that you can send one another "friend requests", once accepted you can then exchange gifts from your "myfarm" "Send Gifts" page.

I would suggest that you have a look at the thread "Jays computer hygene tips" and check your security settings in facebook (FB).. Most folks (self included) restrict what info can be accessed by farm friends and make a seperate "friends list" in FB, you can then use this list to add any new farming friends. So you only send gifts to people you know use MyFarm..

All this info can be found in the "Game Guide" together with more detailed instructions if reqd..

Hope this helps.. Keep yer Wet & Enjoy your farm...

Well, I wasn't sure if I had to make them a friend to send them a gift, and thought it may be a little presumptuous of me to just ask them to be my 'friend'. :)

But people have been sending me requests to be a friend right and left. :lol: So I guess it was okay.

I'm a little paranoid about people seeing my personal stuff too... so thanks for the privacy info.

Ummm...... 'Wellies'? Is this something I would find on my farm? :smile1:

[farmergirl]

Ummm...... 'Wellies'? Is this something I would find on my farm?

wellies=big rubber boots to muck about in. great for gardening and farming
http://www.raindrops.co.uk/images_products/DC7A203F-2A35-42E3-BF89-10AD6C21C9DE/thumb_green_wellies.jpg

[Wet Wellie]

wellies=big rubber boots to muck about in. great for gardening and farming
http://www.raindrops.co.uk/images_products/DC7A203F-2A35-42E3-BF89-10AD6C21C9DE/thumb_green_wellies.jpg

Nice one - thanks Farmergirl, Looks like you recovered my "going out wellies"

Thanks for the new posh ones though, Had to take a photo to put as my avatar !! Check them out !!!

:lol:

[farmergirl]

Check them out !!!

all shiny with that new wellie smell. and gnome puke free!

[amyjane]

What I have found is that everyone has a different pace of farming. I tend to farm every day, but some days I farm early, other days so late that it becomes the next day before I send gifts. So it may look like I have "skipped" a day. Several of my farm friends clearly only farm a few days a week. So I do not get equal gifts from all. Occasionally I gift the more frequent givers extra gifts, but my pattern is to give everyone at least one gift each day, and it seems to be working because I get gifts and no complaints!
Farm on...

[joan]

hi Im looking for a few farm friends and yes i do keep in touch also send gifts and look at there farms , thats the best part love seening how other people set up , Im Irish married a Aussie and now live down under well 34 years here now hoping to hear from some nice people joan

[charli]

hi Im looking for a few farm friends

Joan - see post #40 this thread that tells ya where to go to request Farm Friends, quoted below:



http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/forum/t1230.gif to find people that are interested in receiving friend request look in the Official Farm Friends Request Thread. (http://myfarmcommunity.com/showthread.php?t=36) there you will find people looking to add new friends. may i suggest you also add your name there as well so people looking to do the same are able to find you.

[srs42]

What I have found is that everyone has a different pace of farming.

Absolutely right! Just as everyone of us is different, we will all have different styles and expectations from our farms. There is no "correct" way to play this game. Whatever gives each of us satisfaction is a good thing. :yes4:

So lets hit the plows and get growing! :dance3:

Sam

[Wet Wellie]

all shiny with that new wellie smell. and gnome puke free!

Yesss, lovely, shame they wont smell quite the same once I have worn them !

How are your gnomes doing ? at least they shouldnt be able to break too much with a pair of rubber wellies !!

[Wet Wellie]

What I have found is that everyone has a different pace of farming.

I get gifts and no complaints!
Farm on...

Every one of us is different, and has different expectations, as unique as each and every farm! you just do what you want to do at whatever pace suits you !!

Some days I can be farming or haunting the forum for a few hours a day, other times I struggle to find time to send/recieve gifts and harvest what is likely to spoil !!

My advice - do it your way, and enjoy it !!

[Rain]

wellies=big rubber boots to muck about in. great for gardening and farming
http://www.raindrops.co.uk/images_products/DC7A203F-2A35-42E3-BF89-10AD6C21C9DE/thumb_green_wellies.jpg

OH!! My Dad and brothers always just called those 'irrigating boots'. lol

[Wet Wellie]

OH!! called those 'irrigating boots'. lol

Ha ! yet another one to add to my list of nom-de-plumes !!

[srs42]

Ha ! yet another one to add to my list of nom-de-plumes !!

Your chicken plumes have names? :blink:

Sam

[Wet Wellie]

Your chicken plumes have names? :blink:

Sam

Of course !! Don't yours ???

[srs42]

Of course !! Don't yours ???

Not individually. Although I've never asked the chickens what they call them. I've always found that it's pretty hard to talk rationally to a chicken. :to_pick_ones_nose3:

Sam

[Rain]

Ha ! yet another one to add to my list of nom-de-plumes !!

Plumes? Hmm.... Like a 'feather in your cap'? :lol:

[Wet Wellie]

Plumes? Hmm.... Like a 'feather in your cap'? :lol:

Especially if its a chicken plume !! - No more like "aka / alias"

But fun anyway (I probobly spelt it wrong anyway, I got thown out of French when I was 11, Never really tried again {and that was 40 odd yrs ago} Yes very odd years)
:lol:

[Wet Wellie]

Not individually. Although I've never asked the chickens what they call them. I've always found that it's pretty hard to talk rationally to a chicken. :to_pick_ones_nose3:

Sam

How can you talk about rationallity and chickens in the same sentence ?? They just dont make sense (the chickens I mean) :lol: :dance3:

[srs42]

How can you talk about rationallity and chickens in the same sentence ?? They just dont make sense (the chickens I mean) :lol: :dance3:

To be honest, I've just been too chicken to even try. I guess I'm a pretty dumb cluck.

Sam

[Wet Wellie]

To be honest, I've just been too chicken to even try. I guess I'm a pretty dumb cluck.

Sam

Must be a side-effect of those Duck-boots of yours !! :to_pick_ones_nose3:

[Granny]

I don't want to be a spoil sport here, but this thread is suppose to be about facebook friends or MyFarm friends etiquette. Since I started this thread, I'm getting facebook notifications everytime someone posts. I'm sure newcomers may be looking for information and wonder what they have stumbled into.

Is ole' Granny Jane going to have to get you two old F.A.R.T.S. in line? Don't make me separate you!:nono:

[Wet Wellie]

Is ole' Granny Jane going to have to get you two old F.A.R.T.S. in line? Don't make me separate you!:nono: :warning2:

Hey- easy does it - I resemble that remark (so does someone else *giggle*)

Ooops, Sorry Granny "He made me do it !" lol (sorry wrong thread again !!)

My appologies to anyone looking for "real info" and finding all this stuff !!!!

:fie: :offtopic:

[Granny]

Ooops, Sorry Granny "He made me do it !" lol (sorry wrong thread again !!)

My appologies to anyone looking for "real info" and finding all this stuff !!!!

:fie: :offtopic:

Okay, you're forgiven, but don't let me catch you doing it again! :no:And quit trying to play innocent and blame everything on Sam!

Back on topic, before sending a friend request it might be a good idea to send a private message to be sure the other person is receptive to the request. Of course, you can also post in the requesting new friends thread and let them contact you. I know I'm trying to keep a fairly small game friend list. I have several friends that are new to MyFarm and I'm trying to send them several gifts each day. I, also, have several that play MyFarm and Pet Society.

[srs42]

Must be a side-effect of those Duck-boots of yours !! :to_pick_ones_nose3:

Watch it, I don't wear duck-boots. But if they had beaver boots, I would definitely think about it. :yes2:

And to keep it semi-on topic, I check out what team new friends root for first.

Sam
(fan of the Oregon State Beavers)

[srs42]

Okay, you're forgiven, but don't let me catch you doing it again! :no:And quit trying to play innocent and blame everything on Sam!


Hey! I resemble that remark.

Sam

[Granny]

Apparently it is considered rude to invite someone's parents to join facebook. A little bird told me that a young relative (college student) got annoyed when several of her aunts were kidding around on her brother's facebook page and suggested inviting his parents to join. Another aunt that did not post actually invited them. So now all parents, aunts, uncles and cousins are blocked. What's so funny is another cousin had thought about blocking this relative because of the nature of her posts. That cousin some how got overlooked in the blocking.

Granny's sage advice: Don't put anything on facebook you wouldn't want anyone to read even your parents! Also, employers have been known to check out a future employees internet activities.
http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-computer004.gif (http://www.freesmileys.org)

[Stewarts#1girl]

Granny.. I think that is very good advice. I don't think that people realize that EVERYONE checks out the internet. All you have to do is type in someones name, and you know the tracks they have made.!!

[Gia McElroy]

Granny.. I think that is very good advice. I don't think that people realize that EVERYONE checks out the internet. All you have to do is type in someones name, and you know the tracks they have made.!!

First of all...good thread, Granny. And a lot of useful information was here...I just finished reading it all! I, too, am not fond of getting friend requests out of the blue with no explanation as to who they are or how I know them. I even remind people I was good friends with how they know me...just in case their brains aren't funtioning the day they receive the request. And if you are requesting for a farm friend...I would think you should certainly explain who you are and why you are requesting! I have gotten requests I had to ignore as I can only send so many gifts out. I felt bad, though. However, I never asked for friends on the thread for asking???

Oh...and Robin is so right! I joke a lot and sometimes have to think...what if some idiot takes it seriously? Then I have to remind myself that it is a social thing and that if anyone is taking fb literally, they need a life!

[Granny]

Apparently it is considered rude to invite someone's parents to join facebook. A little bird told me that a young relative (college student) got annoyed when several of her aunts were kidding around on her brother's facebook page and suggested inviting his parents to join. Another aunt that did not post actually invited them. So now all parents, aunts, uncles and cousins are blocked. What's so funny is another cousin had thought about blocking this relative because of the nature of her posts. That cousin some how got overlooked in the blocking.

Granny's sage advice: Don't put anything on facebook you wouldn't want anyone to read even your parents! Also, employers have been known to check out a future employees internet activities.
http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-computer004.gif (http://www.freesmileys.org)

I just thought I would brush this thread off and revive it to remind folks of facebook friend etiquette and how to set up a sub-group of gaming friends in facebook. I recently got a facebook friend request from a gaming friend's friend without a note or anything. Having no clue who he was I sent both him and our joint friend messages. I didn't add him.

PS. The relative has added us all back this week. Unfortunately, a family crisis made them grow up and realize how important family is.

[Joy]

I keep in closer touch with my nieces (ages 17 - 38) with Facebook. The youngest of these had no qualms about inviting her father to be her friend, but she is a squeaky-clean kid running for pres of the senior class at Andover. I'm bragging and yes, this is off-topic. So shoot me.

[klittle2110]

I always add a little note telling them I saw their posting on the myFarm forum for farm friends.

I added one lady the other day who was posting in various threads about wanting friends. I added her, she accepted, I sent her numerous gifts... well not hoards, but one of each item. She then deleted me without sending anything back. I am still giggling over that one.

[kiminbend]

I always add a little note telling them I saw their posting on the myFarm forum for farm friends.

I added one lady the other day who was posting in various threads about wanting friends. I added her, she accepted, I sent her numerous gifts... well not hoards, but one of each item. She then deleted me without sending anything back. I am still giggling over that one.
They come in all sizes etc. Try to be nice...oh well. At least..WE ARE! :daisy:

[Joy]

I always add a little note telling them I saw their posting on the myFarm forum for farm friends.

I added one lady the other day who was posting in various threads about wanting friends. I added her, she accepted, I sent her numerous gifts... well not hoards, but one of each item. She then deleted me without sending anything back.
I had a similar experience. Added one woman Tuesday and sent groves of the only tree she wanted. She DID reciprocate to some extent, but deleted me today without a by-your-leave.

[srs42]

I had a similar experience. Added one woman Tuesday and sent groves of the only tree she wanted. She DID reciprocate to some extent, but deleted me today without a by-your-leave.

I guess you just make yer friends and take yer chances. I have special folders that I put these types of friends in. I have anyone in this folder severely limited in the FB privacy options. :secret:

[jkat]

I don;t really have much info on FB as to me it's just a way to waste time, if i want to stay in touch with someone I have my mobile. So if people do look me up they just get to see i've been spending way too much time on mafiawars, my farm and pet society.

Also only have 3 myfarm friends so try to post them gifts daily but usually forget.

[Granny]

I don;t really have much info on FB as to me it's just a way to waste time, if i want to stay in touch with someone I have my mobile. So if people do look me up they just get to see i've been spending way too much time on mafiawars, my farm and pet society.

Also only have 3 myfarm friends so try to post them gifts daily but usually forget.


I actually turned off all those notifications by going to the edit on the facebook applications. I too have all my gaming friends in a separate folder as suggested earlier in this thread. This is just a safety precaution. I'm sure they are who they say they are, but it does make me more comfortable in adding new folks.:cowboy:

[xbsjason]

Is there any benefit to MyFarn to having more friends with farms? Just curious. :wink1:

[kiminbend]

Is there any benefit to MyFarn to having more friends with farms? Just curious. :wink1:
More friends more gifts...provided they gift! It can also be tough as well...trying to reciprocate the same # as given.:sheep-jumo:

[Virgil]

I just received a friend request from someone that I have no idea who they are. Of course, they wouldn't have a picture or their maiden name in their facebook name. I was able to look in their profile and see that they attended the same high school though several years ahead of me. Well, I'm one of six kids and over half of us attended the same high school and have names that start with "J". Don't know what my mother was thinking. And if that isn't bad enough there was another Jane a couple of years ahead of me.

I sent them a short message and asked if they had me confused with my sister, Judy, or the other Jane and apologized if I was having a senior moment and not remembering them. This is not the first time I've received a request like this. One was actually looking for my sister, Jill. One I still don't remember, but all my friends seem to know her.

I've only been on facebook a couple of months. Please give us your thoughts on the proper etiquette on sending and receiving Friend requests.

Granny's Orchard
Jane P Richardson aka Granny:baffled:

Grans, I hear ya. As soon as I entered the old forum I was getting killed with friend requests. I have made several posts like this. You got to get mean!! Do what I did. Report the ones that just bum rush your box with nothing to say with a spam complaint. Thats what I did. Works well

[Mel]

With all the new posts about "unwanted" friends requests, I thought I would bring this back to the forefront of the forum.

Happy Farming!
~:O)
:m0261::cow2::mad cow:

[farmergirl]

i stumbled across this article this morning while looking at interesting ways to clean with ketchup and thought others might find it amusing as well. http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/technology/communication-etiquette/facebook-friend-00000000010777/index.html

[FarmerPhoebe]

I've read several posts to this thread of MyFarm members disappointed about gifts not being reciprocated. Well, what about a gift-giving "club" of small groups of members who commit to sending gifts to one another?

I am interested in forming such a group. Here's the link to the thread: Gift-Giving Club (http://www.myfarmcommunity.com/showthread.php?p=38289#post38289)

If interested, please respond to the thread or send me a PM. Thanks!